What Is The Law Of Attraction And How To Use It To Attract What You Want?

The Law of Attraction is a spiritual and universal principle that states that whatever thoughts and feelings we put out into the Universe will be attracted right back to us.

This is a principle that is governed by our thoughts and emotions emitting an energetic vibrational frequency that resonates our reality.

It teaches that we will attract like energies based on what we focus on the most.

In this article, we will talk about what the law of attraction actually is, 5 fundamental principles of the law of attraction, how to use the law of attraction to attract what you want, exercises you can use to practice the law of attraction and tips that help you attract better.

Table of Content:

What Is the Law of Attraction?
- Is the Law of Attraction Real?
How Does the Law of Attraction Work?
What Are The Principles Of The Law Of Attraction?
What Are The 7 Laws of Attraction?
How to Use the Law of Attraction in 3 Steps?
Exercises for Practicing the Law of Attraction
How To Use The Law Of Attraction In Different Aspects of Your Life?
Why is the Law of Attraction Not Working?
How to use the law of attraction when everything goes wrong in your life?
What is the difference between the law of attraction and the law of assumption?
Law of Attraction Books Recommendations

What Is the Law of Attraction?

The Law of Attraction, one of the 12 universal laws, is a philosophy and spiritual belief which promotes the idea that we can manifest anything by focusing our thoughts with emotions appropriately.

The whole concept is really way more than just being positive and avoiding negativities, but it is also a thoughts and emotions processing mechanism to guide us to what we desire, e.g. our goals on Money, Relationships and Health.

Simply put…

… it’s the ways of thinking and living to help the manifestation of things that we want.

Is the Law of Attraction Real?

The idea of the Law of Attraction has been getting more and more popular in the last decade since the movie “The Secret” was revealed.

However, this concept has actually been mentioned so many times in books from 100 years ago like ‘The Science of Getting Rich’ which was first published in 1910 by Wallace D. Wattles.

What’s even crazier is that…

If we chase back further, you could find some law of attraction theories in Taoism teachings from Laozi more than 2000 years ago. Not to mention other philosophies and religious teachings.

That being said…

…the Law of Attraction teachings has been with us in our culture for so long as a universal law and this is also why it has been widely accepted so quickly in the past decade.

Yes, some people claim that the Law of Attraction is pseudoscience, but well, science can’t prove it (yet) doesn’t make it not real.

How Does the Law of Attraction Work?

how does the law of attraction work

To understand how the Law of Attraction works, first of all, we need to understand that a thought must come with a subject with feeling or emotion.

And every subject is really about two subjects:

You are feeling the presence of it. (Feeling good)
You are not feeling the absence of it. (Feeling bad)

When you feel the presence of a subject, you usually feel positive emotions about it. Like optimism, anticipation, passion, appreciation…etc.

If you feel the absence of a subject, you usually feel negative emotions about it. E.g. pessimism, worry, anger, insecure or fear.

Here’s the thing…

…To be able to attract something into your life, you need to feel good about that subject so you can attract it into your presence consistently.

So consistent that you need to believe that you already have what you want even though you haven’t yet.

You have to expect it to happen even though sometimes there isn’t any evidence showing you so.

I know, it’s easier said than done.

Good news is…

… the main purpose of most LOA teachings is to help us enter this state of mind.

So that we are able to attract the abundance of finances, love, relationships, health and mental well-being effortlessly.

And you will find all the best law of attraction techniques and practices you can use in this article.

What Are The Principles Of The Law Of Attraction?

Before we go through all the LOA practices one by one, it’s very important to understand the fundamental concept of the Law of Attraction.

The fundamental of the Law of Attraction is based on 5 rules.

Like attracts like.
Nature abhors a vacuum.
You attract what you are.
You attract what you put out.
The present is always perfect.

Knowing these core concepts will help you understand the Law of Attraction better, decode some of our inherent thoughts, and practice the Law of Attraction exercises easier.

Treat it as a game, and these are the 5 rules you need to know about:

1. Like attracts like

The original saying is: ‘That which is like unto itself, is drawn.’

It means that like energy tends to attract like energy.

Now think about this:

According to the Law of Vibration, everything is made by atoms which are basically held together by energy.

And our thoughts are also a form of energy which our nerve cells generate electrical signals that transmit information.

It makes so much sense that like-minded people tend to group together as they emit similar energy.

It makes so much sense that affectionate people tend to be loved by others as they emit love from their thinking and actions.

It makes so much sense that rich people tend to attract wealth so much more effortlessly as they emit abundance from their mindsets.

2. Nature abhors a vacuum

What it really means is that, when you let go of something, new things must come to fill the void.

It’s also the nature of energy which always flows from higher potential to lower potential.

It also implies that when you lose something in your life, maybe your career, money, relationships… Don’t hold on to it. Let it go.

Put down your regrets, your angst, your grief. New experience must flow in to fill that gap.

By understanding this law, you know you will never lose anything. Every loss is a transition to a better version of you and your life.

3. You attract what you are

When we try to attract something into our life, no matter if it is money, relationships or health…

…We not only attract the things itself to come, most of the time, we also need to become that person who is able to acquire what we want.

Become the person who is capable to make that money
Become the person who is capable to love himself / herself
Become the person who is strong / flexible enough to have that body.

Thus, it is very crucial to understand you are what you attract so that when we practice the Law of Attraction, we know our focus is not only the thing outside of us…

… but a large part of it is that we are ‘Being’ the new version of us.

4. You attract what you put out

It is also called the boomerang effect.

This concept suggests that we would attract the ENERGY back to ourselves no matter what we put out to the Universe in terms of our thoughts, emotions and actions.

Say for example, if you do something kind to a person willingly, lovingly and gratefully. You will attract something back to you that makes you feel love and gratitude.

However, if you do something to a person unwillingly, angrily with resentment. You will further attract more things that make you feel angry and resentment.

So you know how the Law of Attraction affects the action part of our life.

5. The present is always perfect

This law suggests that no matter what is happening right now, it is perfect.

Everything that is happening around you is an outcome of your own manifestation.

The coolest part?

Things always happen FOR you, not TO you.

The earth is spinning perfectly. Gravity is working perfectly. The Law of Attraction is working perfectly for you.

Once you understand this, you will know there are no problems, issues, challenges, adversities or crises…..

There are only events that show you the contrast so you can discern what you want and keep you evolving as a human and spiritual being.

This, is the most perfect part of the perfect present.

What Are The 7 Laws of Attraction?

The 7 Laws of Attraction are 7 principles that explain how you can use the law of attraction fully.

The Law of Manifestation
The Law of Magnetism
The Law of Pure Desire / Unwavering Desire
The Law of Paradoxical Intent /Delicate Balance
The Law of Harmony
The Law of Right Action
The Law of Universal Influence

The Law of Manifestation

The Law of Manifestation states that our thoughts become physical reality. What we hold in our mind, both consciously and subconsciously, is manifested in outward form on the material plane.

By imagining what we want as already ours, we attract its embodiment in the physical world.

The Law of Magnetism

The Law of Magnetism, suggests that like energy attracts like. It states that we each emit an energetic frequency based on our dominant thoughts, feelings and state of being.

This personal vibration attracts to us other energies, circumstances and people that match and resonate with it.

Through understanding this law, we can raise our personal vibration to attract uplifting people and opportunities into our lives.

The Law of Pure Desire / Unwavering Desire

The Law of Pure Desire, also called the Law of Unwavering Desire, proposes that having a deep heartfelt yearning for something and unwavering faith in its attainment compels the manifestation process.

Unwavering desire sends a powerful vibrational message that resonates outward, magnetizing back the object of that desire.

Staying resolutely attached to the end result through all stages of creation ensures the law is optimally leveraged for realization of one’s true wants and dreams.

The Law of Paradoxical Intent /Delicate Balance

The Law of Paradoxical Intent, also called the Law of Delicate Balance, suggests that achieving goals from a place of calmness rather than anxiety allows for effortless manifestation.

Approaching what you want with detached interest rather than desperation paradoxically makes it flow more easily.

Forcefully chasing an outcome creates resistance, where allowing it to come on its own accord sets the most harmonious conditions.

The Law of Harmony

The Law of Harmony proposes that there is a resonance between our inner and outer realities.

It states that what is happening internally, in terms of our mental, emotional and energetic states, will reflect externally in our experiences, environments and interactions.

To live in harmony with this principle means cultivating alignment between one’s inner and outer worlds.

The Law of Right Action

The Law of Right Action asserts that goals are best achieved through aligned steps that do not generate resistance or negativity.

Taking proactive measures consistent with one’s intentions while occupying a mindset of ease helps facilitate smooth manifestation.

Exerting effort from a place of joy rather than strain enhances the manifestation process.

The Law of Universal Influence

The Law of Universal Influence proposes that individual thoughts and actions impact not just oneself, but the larger whole of existence.

As microcosms interconnected with the macrocosm, each person contributes to the collective consciousness and helps shape reality for all.

Understanding this law means realizing one’s power and responsibility to uplift the world through choices made.

How to Use the Law of Attraction in 3 Steps?

How to use the law of attraction

To use the Law of Attraction is actually really simple. There is only 3 steps:

Step 1: Know What You Want

Like I mentioned above, life is a series of events that show you the contrast so you can discern what you want and keep you evolving.

When we observe something that we don’t want in our life, it is actually a chance to know what we do want.

I don’t want to be poor <- what you don’t want
I want to be financially success <- what you do want
I don’t want to be single <- what you don’t want
I want to have someone to share my life with <- what you do want
I don’t want to be sick <- what you don’t want
I want to be healthy <- what you do want

Remember this:

Every subject in the Law of Attraction is really about two subjects:

The presence of it.
The absence of it.

Feel the sensation of relief when you switch your focus from the absence to the presence of it.

And to attract what you want you need to focus on the presence of it, which is what you do want.

Step 2: Know Why You Want It

There is a magic of knowing why you want something.

It is always about how you want to feel when you keep asking why you want something until you reach the intention point.

We are such an emotional being as our primal desire is always emotional driven.

Keep asking yourself why you want something until you can’t find any logical rationale left.

After you get used to this step, you can simply ask yourself:

How do I want to feel when I get this?

There is always a good feeling like joy, empowerment, love or appreciation behind all of this and the Universe will always response to it.

This is how you ask the Universe for what you want by addressing how you feel about a subject.

Step 3: Let the Universe do the work. Feel Good and Expect it to Come

The last step is really not our part.

We just leave it for the Universe to do the manifestation work.

Yet, we need to trust the process and believe the Universe will attract what you want for your.

If we can keep ourselves in a state of feeling good and expecting things to come most of the time in a day, that would be terrific.

Even if we can’t, we can just let go (and let god) and surrender the situation as much as possible, especially when you are in a seemingly slightly more urgent circumstance.

Exercises for Practicing the Law of Attraction

The whole point of practicing the Law of Attraction is to practice how to feel good.

Or more accurately, it’s to learn how to raise your vibration to a higher level.

Like we mentioned in the last section, Step 1 and Step 2 of using the Law of Attraction is actually easy.

But to learn how to feel good…

… I know it sounds absurd but sadly, the truth is, the majority of us were being trained and educated that we are not allowed to feel good as we wished.

I know I sound like an extremist, but think about this:

“Keep Quiet! Don’t laugh during class.”

And think about why people are so used to going for a ‘Happy Hour’ after work? Isn’t Happy Hour anytime? (By Johnny Depp lol)

Sorry for digressed a little bit too far but the truth of the matter is, most of us doesn’t know how to feel good by our own will.

So, here are a few really good Law of Attraction techniques you can use on a daily basis to train yourself to feel better and make this way of thinking your habit.

1. Visualization

Visualization is a very effective manifestation technique to bring your mind and your emotion forward to a point that you have acquired what you desired.

Remember the Universe will respond to no matter what emotion you put out and attract it for you.

The bottle line?

Visualize yourself vividly being the person who already has what you want and feel the satisfaction, happiness, ease, gratitude and appreciation to be that person.

2. Gratitude List

Gratitude list is a practice that you journal 5 – 10 things everyday that you are grateful for in the last 24 hours.

If you can’t think of anything or you just had a bad day, try to expand it to the last 7 days or the last month.

It is okay even if it is something you have journaled before.

As long as you can feel the gratitude rising in your heart, you can still write it down.

Like attracts like.

Gratitude attracts more gratitude.

This technique guarantees you to have a really good circulation of good things to happen in your life.

3. Gratitude & Appreciation in Action

Gratitude and appreciation in action is a practice in which you take every action with gratitude and appreciation.

If you can get yourself to be feeling fairly good all day, you may try to use this technique to push it forward.

Remember we mentioned about the law that you attract what you put out?

What if you keep putting gratitude and appreciation in your every single action?

How about paying your Starbuck with gratitude?

Feeling grateful for the money you exchange for your coffee.

Feeling appreciation for the staff who took your order for her smile and professional service.

Feeling grateful for the aroma in the shop that makes you feel so good when you take each of your breath.

In this way, you can put something good out there in almost everything you do.

4. General Thought

General thought is a process of thinking that you intentionally picking thoughts that don’t trigger emotions.

We talked a lot about how to feel good earlier. It is easy to feel good when you are in a good mood.

But in reality, there could be hundreds of things to trigger your bad feeling – aka Negativity.

When you are in a slightly bad mood, like feeling pessimism, frustration, irritation or impatience, you are still able to twist it to a slightly positive emotion like contentment or optimism.

But guess what?

If you are in a fairly strong negative mood – feeling disappointed, worried, angry, discouraged, insecure, depression…

… it is so so so much harder to twist your feeling to a positive emotion.

So, whenever you find yourself dwelling in these deep negative emotions, don’t try to ‘Be Positive’.

Instead, you can focus on something general which would not trigger your negative feeling.

What is general thought?

What’s the weather today? What’s the temperature today? Look around your surroundings.

Anything that is happening in the present moment but not triggering any negative emotions to you.

5. Meditation

Meditation works quite similar to General Thought.

By putting your focus on your breath and your body, you not only can isolate yourself from thoughts that make you feel bad, but also bring yourself to peace temporarily.

And the best part is…

… This 15 – 30 mins of peace can help you to set the tune for your whole day.

It will help you to feel better so much easier during the day and give you a shield to any negativities.

6. Take Things Easy

Always remember the whole point of practicing the Law of Attraction is to help yourself feel good.

It’s not an exam or you need a license to be able to use and master the Law of Attraction.

Don’t try to evaluate your progress. Don’t try so hard. Don’t beat yourself up.

In fact, I have quite a few times that once I stopped trying so hard and even decided to leave it behind, things just flow in.

The present is perfect.

Take it easy, relax, no rush, feel good, have fun.

How To Use The Law Of Attraction In Different Aspects of Your Life?

1. How To Use The Law Of Attraction To Attract Love and Relationships?

To use the Law of Attraction to manifest love or any relationship, you have to be able to love yourself first.

Here’s why:

To be able to attract love, you need to feel loved.

One of the best sources of love is, not from others, but from yourself, which we generally call it – self love.

And, to be able to love yourself, you need to learn how to appreciate yourself, forgive yourself and do things that make yourself happy.

When you love yourself enough so you can be your true self, you are infinitely more attractive to those who appreciate your quality as a partner.

2. How To Use The Law Of Attraction To Attract Money?

To use the Law of Attraction to manifest money, there usually involve in two situations:

You don’t have enough money and you want to have enough to deal with overhead costs, bills and debt.
You already have some money but you want to achieve a higher financial goal.

If you are in the 1st situation, you need to do anything you could do to make yourself feel enough.

If you don’t have any income or very little income, try to find a job with a higher salary. If you could, try to get 2 or 3 part-time jobs.

Take whatever it takes to make yourself feel secure constantly.

When the sense of security becomes your basic tune of vibration, sources of income will show up to offer you financial stability.

If you are in the 2nd situation, you want to achieve a higher financial success.

The easiest way is to visualize yourself having already achieved your goal and you can feel gratitude and satisfaction.

Or do something you are passionate about and try to build an income with it.

3. How To Use The Law Of Attraction To Attract Health and Fitness?

The process of practicing the Law of Attraction itself is already bringing tons of benefits to your health while you are feeling good.

Releasing your anxiety, anger, depression or all kinds of negative emotions can also keep you away from chronic stress which is scientifically proven that it increases the risk of many health problems.

For body fitness, it is really that simple to keep visualizing you already have the ideal body shape and feel the ease of moving your body.

If you want to lose weight, make sure to check with yourself if you have a low self-esteem issue. You may probably need to appreciate and forgive yourself more as a part of your Law of Attraction exercises.

4. How To Use The Law Of Attraction To Attract Career and Work?

Besides using the Law of Attraction to manifest the career or ideal job position you want, you can also use it at work to resolve any kind of challenges.

Better communication with colleagues, smooth negotiation with clients, resolving critical incidents and crises…You name it.

Guess what?

Using the Law of Attraction at work not only can help you to do your job better and be able to achieve more, but it is also a great channel for you to keep practicing it.

5. How To Use The Law Of Attraction To Attract Success?

First of all, you need to be very clear about what Success means to you.

It can be the amount of money you want to make, the perfect house you want to live in, the family you want to have, the career goal you want to achieve, the business you want to establish.

But the point is…

… You need to have a more substantial idea on what your success means to you.

Write down all of these goals as specific as possible in a notebook or you can create a vision board so you can keep track of.

And every time, or ideally, everyday look at your list or vision board and imagine yourself having already achieved all of these goals and find the feeling of satisfaction, joy and gratitude.

Why is the Law of Attraction Not Working?

The Law of Attraction is not working usually due the the following factors.

You do not trust the universe and the law of attraction will deliver what you want.
You can not detach from outcome which create resistance from getting what you want.
You have some limiting beliefs you are not aware that hinder you from attracting what you want.

To identify whether which factor is hindering you, you can simply ask yourself the following questions.

Do I trust the universe and the law of attraction will always deliver what I want?
Am I consistently tracking my progress and results?
Do I believe my desire is manifestable?

If your answer is no, then very likely that is the reason the law of attraction is not working for you.

How to trust the universe law of attraction?

Trusting the universe is a key factor to allow the law of attraction to work for you.

To trust the universe and the law of attraction, the easiset way is to learn by experiencing manifesting something into your life successfully.

For most people who just started to learn the law of attraction, it is easier to attract things that they have experienced less negative emotions or less resistance.

You can start with something nice to have or nice to happen which doesn’t need your endeavor, rather than a big target or life goal that you would immediately connect to the time and effort you need to put into it.

It could be meeting that friend you haven’t been seeing in a while. It could be able to book that resturarant that is always full-booking. It could be just a favor from others.

The more you can manifest the ‘small stuffs’, the more you can build up the trust towards the universe and the law of attraction.

How to detach from the outcome while using the law of attraction?

Detaching from the outcome while practicing the law of attraction is effective way to speed up the process of the manifestation by releasing resistance.

To detach from the outcome while you are practicing the law of attraction, the best way is to focus on the present moment.

Focusing on the present moment is a mindfulness practice where you put all your attention only on our breaths, posture, feelings, thoughts, and surroundings.

One of the best ways you can practice the present moment is to do things or activities that you truly enjoy.

In this process, you don’t dwell on your past or worry about what’s coming. If you can focus on the present moment, then you will be able to detach from the outcome.

How to remove limiting beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are patterns of thoughts that are hindering us to manifest what we want by the law of attraction.

Limiting beliefs includes the followings.

Negative self-conversation.
Negative experience from the past.
Insufficient confidence.

To remove limiting beliefs, you can engage with the following 3 step proecess.

Identify the limiting beliefs.
Challenge the limiting beliefs.
Replace with empowering beliefs.

1. Identify the limiting beliefs.

Make a list of negative beliefs holding you back. Write down associated thoughts and feelings. Recognize how they influence your decisions and behaviors.

2. Challenge the limiting beliefs.

Question evidence supporting each belief. Look for counter-examples where the belief wasn’t true. Seek alternative perspectives from supportive people. Expose yourself to what you believe you cannot do.

3. Replace with empowering beliefs.

For each limiting belief, craft a positive affirmation to think instead. Say affirmations daily while visualizing yourself succeeding without limits. With repetition, new empowering beliefs will take root and negative self-talk will fade, setting you free to progress unimpeded. Regular review keeps new beliefs strengthened.

How to use the law of attraction when everything goes wrong in your life?

According to the law of attraction, negative events can arise from habitual negative thinking patterns.

If everything seems to be going wrong continuously in life, it is an indication that you have been dwelling on deep negative emotions like anger, grief, and depression.

To apply the law of attraction when everything goes wrong, you must learn certain ways of thinking under the following situations.

Stop negative thoughts when they arise.
Use the law of attraction when bad things happen.
Use the law of attraction when feeling depressed.

How to stop negative thoughts when they arise?

Stopping negative thoughts when they arise is crucial for mastering the law of attraction as negative thoughts attract negative events.

We would want to cease any negative thoughts and emotions before unwanted events are manifested in multiple aspects of our life.

To stop negative thoughts when they arise, you can do it with the following 3 simple steps.

1. Awareness

Notice the thought as soon as it enters your mind. Catching it early makes it easier to soothe.

2. Identification

Identify the thought that is troubling you and the feeling it is evoking. Labeling the thought helps you detach from emotionally reacting to it. Knowing the emotion you are experiencing also helps you to elevate your mood gradually through the emotional guidance scale.

3. Substitution

Find a better feeling thought regarding the emotional guidance scale can elevate your mood effectively. Think of evidence that challenges the thought’s validity and substitutes a kinder perspective.

With regular practice, you can stop negative thoughts from taking hold.

How to use the law of attraction when bad things happen?

When bad things happen, it is usually a result of our recent negative thoughts and emotions.

To use the law of attraction when bad things happen, the best thing we can do is figure out what our genuine desires are behind that unfavorable circumstance.

When you focus on what you want, you can’t focus on what you don’t want. This is how our brains work biologically.

And if you focus on what you want persistently, you will attract solutions, new opportunities, or someone that can resolve your situation.

How to use the law of attraction when feeling depressed?

Depression is one of the lowest emotional states according to the emotional guidance scale. In this state, it is usually associated with other emotions like unworthiness, powerlessness, and despair.

Uplifting practices like positive affirmations, visualization, and gratitude journaling are relatively inefficient to deal with this situation. The best way is to engage in activities that can stop you from dwelling in those depressing emotions.

The following activities can replenish your mood instantly.

Go for a walk in nature.
Take a nap.
Take a hot or cold shower.

Once you feel better, you can engage with other uplifting practices to further improve your vibration.

What is the difference between the law of attraction and the law of assumption?

The law of attraction states that like attracts like, so positive thoughts attract positive outcomes and negative thoughts attract negative outcomes. It’s about vibration and frequency.

The law of assumption suggests that our assumptions, whether conscious or subconscious, become our reality simply by virtue of assuming them to be true. Rather than a focus on inner vibration, it emphasizes the subjective nature of our perceived external reality being shaped entirely by our inner expectations and beliefs.

The law of assumption places more agency in the individual’s subjective experience rather than universal energetic forces. Both aim to alter reality by altering thought patterns.

Law of Attraction Books Recommendations

Last but not least, here are the Top 10 Law of Attraction Books I love and also loved by millions of LOA followers.

All the Law of Attraction books by Esther Hicks
‘The Science of Getting Rich’ by Wallace D. Wattles
‘The Science of Being Well’ by Wallace D. Wattles
‘The Mastery of Love’ by Don Miguel Ruiz
‘Becoming Supernatural’ by Joe Dispenza
‘Think and Grow Rich’ by Napoleon Hill
‘Change Your Paradigm’ by Bob Proctor
‘The Secret’ by Rhonda Byrne
‘Happy Money’ by Ken Honda
‘Zero Limits’ By Joe Vitale